Our lil O is now 3 1/2 months old! How time flies! He is no longer considered an infant. He is now a baby!
Everyday he brings so much joy to our lives and everyday I feel so grateful for the treasure we have. He is growing so fast. It’s hard to keep up! It still only feels like yesterday that I was walking up and down our street, breathing in smoke from the bush fires burning close by, trying to bring on labour.
So much has happened since I last wrote a post so I’m just going to list a few milestones that have occurred over the last couple of months:
- Christmas – We went on a road trip to K’s parents house where we stayed for two weeks over Christmas & New Years. Lil O was fantastic in the car. It was a 10 hour trip each way. We planned it well, so that we left when he was due for a sleep, then stopped when he was due for a feed and it worked really well. He pretty much slept the whole time in the car. The highlight of the trip was seeing him interacting with his older cousins, who absolutely adore him. He loved playing with them and was all smiles and giggles. He also loved his poppy, who could easily make him smile and giggle.
- Rolling – Lil O rolled from back to tummy and back again when he was 11 weeks old. We had to transition him quickly out of his swaddles and into sleeping bags as he was moving so much in his cot. I thought this first roll was a fluke, but he continued to gain strength and do it quite easily. He struggles a bit with the back to front, but he is so determined that he gets there eventually. Front to back he does with the ease of a ballerina! At my first mothers group meet up yesterday the community nurse didn’t seem to believe me when I told her he was rolling, but I didn’t think it was that unusual and he is a very strong lil boy.
- Talking – – I know it’s just baby babble, but I swear sometimes it sounds like he is saying words like “hello” and “i love you”! He is very chatty sometimes, especially when he is on his change table. Yesterday he was babbling away in mothers group as people were talking, it was like he just wanted to join the conversation.
- Grabbing – He is very good at grabbing now, but still gets quite frustrated if he can’t reach something. He has worked out how to pull the handle on his bouncer hanging toys to make the music play and is very good at picking up things with two hands. He is also starting to grab at my noise and mouth with interest.
- Solids – In a couple of weeks we are going to start him on solids. The recommendation that has been to start them at 6 months is about to change to 4 months apparently and we are going with that. He seems ready. So at the moment I’m reading up on all the ways to wean them onto solids. I’m finding the Baby Lead Weaning information very interesting but not sure if you can start that at 4 months? Breastfeeding is going well and he is finally putting on weight and growing well, so I hope to continue that for as long as possible as well.
- New Zealand – A couple of weeks ago we took lil O to Wellington in New Zealand. We were really worried about how well he would travel, but he ended up being an absolute angel. The main purpose of the trip was so he could meet my grandmother (his great grandmother), who at 92 is quite frail and we just don’t know how much longer she’ll be with us. Seeing lil O and her interact was the most precious thing imaginable. He just loved sitting on her lap and she gentling chatted to him. I’m so glad we made the trip and it was so special to see the joy it brought her. While we were there, there was a 6.3 earthquake. I’ve grown up with earthquakes and have never really been bothered by them, but when this one rumbled it scared the crap out of me. I really think having a son has made me more fearful. K, who I thought would freakout, was hardly bothered by it at all. Lil O didn’t bat an eyelid!
- Sleeping – Our lil O is generally pretty good at night. We have got him into a routine of going to bed around 7.30-8pm. I then dream-feed him at 10pm, which takes him through to 3 or 4 am. He will then sleep for another 2-3 hours. During the day, it’s a bit hit and miss. I try to follow a sleep, feed, play routine and not have him up any longer than 1.5 – 2 hours, but this doesn’t always happen. Some days he won’t nap at all, others (like today) he will sleep up to 3 hours each nap. Some days he self-settles, other days he won’t. But generally I think he’s a good sleeper.
- Development leaps/wonder weeks – At around 11.5 weeks we had an awful week where he just wouldn’t settle. According to the Wonder Weeks theory, he was going through a major development leap. It was a tough week. It was just before we left for New Zealand and we were both pulling our hair out. Some days the only way we could get him to sleep was to put him in the car and go for a long drive. Luckily for us, we live in a very scenic area with lots of interesting places to drive to, so it wasn’t too bad and worth it just to get him to sleep. I’m so grateful that K was on holidays as I think I would have cracked it on my own. But he came out the other end a much happier lil boy with lots of new skills and abilities so all was good in the end. I think we are now in another wonder week as he’s been a bit up and down. His night sleeps this week have been a bit all over the place as well. On Sunday night he slept from 8pm through to 7pm (with one dream feed at 10pm) and then the rest of the week he’s been waking a couple of times, which hasn’t happened for weeks! Just when you think you have them in a good routine, they go and change!
So what’s next? Well I need to start working again…sigh!!! I really don’t want to leave him with anyone else, but at some point that is going to have to happen. I’m lucky that I can work from home, but even that is hard as he needs my attention so much. I don’t think I will have enough time to work around his needs. We have no family living close that can look after him, so our only choice is daycare or a nanny. Handing him over to a daycare when he’s only 4 months old just doesn’t seem right to me. I’m procrastinating finding a solution, but I’m sure having no money coming in will soon motivate me.